>One afternoon in Adoption School, we write a goodbye letter to
>the biological baby we’ll never have. Boy, is that a
>tear-jerker of a day. My husband volunteers to read his
>aloud, and the entire room is sniffing either overtly or
>feigning hay fever. We all grapple with the sadness, the
>finality, the anger and grief as we once and for all put to
>rest this dream that will never come true.
>Now we have made room for our future.
Yes, sometimes you just have to let go of cetain things to make room for other, potentially bigger, things. Letting go of the idea that we'll never have a biological child is tough. But we are looking forward to God's gift, "our" future child.