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Cappie: Death and Birth
2/24/06, 6:34am
We are deep in the process of adoption and my grandpa, “Cappie,” is in hospice care. He’s a stubborn, dear sweet old man who is teaching me about dying. He calls my husband and me “222” because of a sequence in our phone number.

I’ve told Cappie about our dream to adopt, and I’ve I asked that after he dies, if he finds a soul that is looking for a good family to join, to send that soul our way.

The day before he dies, he is in and out of coherence, and he talks about the baby girl in the next bed named "222." My mom and I are hopeful about Cappie's prescience.

(Turns out, our birthmother is about 6 months pregnant with our daughter at them time, though we do not know of each other. I am convinced that even though our daughter never met Cappie, she had one very important conversation with him.)

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Re: Cappie: Death and Birth
2/25/06, 3:07am
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Wow! Chills running down my body with your story of your grandpa. Thank you for sharing.

Good things happen to good people. It was something for you to share your honest thoughts with him about after he died. People want to discuss their situation and everyone seems afraid to mention "death", etc.

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2/25/06, 9:33am
>People want to discuss their situation and everyone seems
>afraid to mention "death", etc.

You're right, Saundra. After Cappie died, a friend of mine sent us flowers. She apologized later for using the word "death" on the card ("Sorry for the death of your grandfather"). We think if we don't use the word, the concept will cease to have power. But really, I think that denying the word gives the concept more power by keeping it cloaked in mystery.

And yes, my grandpa was pleased, I think, to have someone with him at the end who acknowledged his dying and allowed him to process it.

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