The pregnancy counselor was right -- Crystal is immensely likeable. She seems to want to put us at ease, and we giggle together about the absurdity of our situation.
She has flawless skin. She is about six inches shorter than I am. She is blond, and so young and beautiful. This will be an adorable baby. And this baby will likely look nothing like me. No judgments…just observations.
She tells us that staying with the birthfather would not be good for her son, the new baby or for her. We find out that the birthfather has stopped contesting the adoption plan and is willing to sign papers. She seems to go from being supremely angry with him to hopelessly in love with him…and back. We don’t press.
She says she picked us because of the love and respect we have for each other, and because we seemed a bit goofy. And because Hubby is very handsome.
Although Crystal’s counselor was supposed to facilitate the meeting, we pretty much bypass her. We talk as if we’ve known each other for lifetimes. Only Crystal’s mother seems the voice of caution. She asks pointed questions, “Now, you plan on having open contact, right? You’ll tell the child about us, right?”
We respond saying. “We’ve never done this before, and we’re not sure how to do it “right.’ But we do want to lead with our hearts, and we think it will be best for the baby to know where he(?) came from and how much Crystal loves him(?). We know that our relationship is like a see-saw…first Crystal has all the power and we just have to trust. Later, we’ll have all the power and we will want to prove trustworthy to you.”
The counselor brings up the birth. Crystal surprises us with this: “I want you guys to be there with me. You are the parents, and you’ll hold the baby first.”
All our prayers – even the ones we didn’t dare to pray – have been answered.
We give Crystal our cell phone number (we’ve been advised not to share last names yet) and the counselor dismisses us, continuing her session with Crystal.
The ball is in Crystal’s court. She’s given us no reason to think she may back out. She says she’ll call in a day or two to get together again – after all, the baby is due in three weeks!