I read all the threads, the ones tied in a knot, the ones tied in a bow and the ones with the all frayed edges.
I think that there is a main disconnect here between the 2 camps concerning "baby-stealing" and "baby-dumping". We, as adoptive parents do not want to steal someone's baby, especially a baby who is wanted and loved. And, like I mentioned before, women who say we are trying to "steal their babies" can't fathom that someone would "place a child in the arms of another to be parented" (was that PC enough for everyone?)
I think it remarkably strange that in all these months, and maybe I have missed it, but if memory serves me, nobody has written about the all-to-common news stories about babies being found in dumpsters. Just this weekend, a friend came up to me and said, "did you hear about the lady in Virginia who was pregnant and shot her unborn child because she didn't want to give birth?"
Now, I have read comments going from one extreme to the other calling birthmothers "angels" or adoptive parents "thieves" but the bottom line is that regardless of circumstance, we are all just people. Fallible, hopeful, concerned people. In an ideal world, everyone would want what is best for the baby. In an *ideal* world, people who desperately wanted to have children would be able to, and others wouldn't accuse them of leaving an STD untreated. In an ideal world, people who are unable or unwilling to parent a child would not ever find themselves in a position to create one.
As we are all painfully aware, this is not an ideal world. Unfortunately, there is a NEED for adoption. I don't think when God made the prototypes for humans (that I choose to call Adam and Eve) that in His infinite wisdom, He hardwired them to abandon them at birth and leave them in a dumpster, or murder them. I don't think in that prototype there was all this room for error and I think all Eve's reproductive parts were in working order, and all Adam's parts were functioning fine. They had their kids and raised them together. It was never God's *perfect plan* that children would be separated from their natural parents and raised by others. But thank God for those willing to stand in the gap and provide that safe home.
I am so thankful that my birthmother (firstmother, angel or whatever you all wish to call her) decided to give me a chance at life in this ideal world instead of aborting me. I am so thankful that my parents had the desire to open their hearts and home and do for me what she felt she was unable to do. I don't just sit around and love the fact that I am adopted, but it sure beats the alternative.
On a personal note, Rob, I would encourage you to take a step back and remind yourself that it isn't a profile book, or a YouTube ad or any other tangible means of solicitation that will hurry the process along and bring you the right baby. Yes, these venues can definitely be a tool God uses, but ultimately, keep focused on recognizing His will for your life and pray for guidance and wisdom before you make your moves. In my opinion, the best thing in the world isn't that we all get our babies, the best thing in the world is that He gets the glory if/when we finally do.